GROWTH OR GROWN🌴 ?

     The contagious disease out there right now is the "will you marry me" bells. Proposals jumping from one city to another, from a county to the next. It is almost like everyone is getting married at the same time, and in this trending tone they go- 'GRWM to plan my wedding events!' And then the association of people sitted in one corner of their rooms scrolling on their phones and watching such sweet contents would be 'awwning' to them lol.

   

       Social media has played its role in pumping so much energy into fuelling the aspiration to propose and be proposed to, in the same vein, setting standards that are almost impossible to reach. 

      Before you do that "God when?" have you ever imagined what that sweet couple you are looking at, smiling at each other with love in all of their expressions have gone through before they arrived at the destination of deciding to do life together?                               

      You would sit down in your room and on your bed, get paint brushes, the ones that gives the perfect illustration and draw the most perfect life partner in your imagination, and then say, if he doesn't look like this, I don't want. There is even this common pattern of seeing somebody expressing certain gestures for their partner and people commenting, if she doesn't do this, I don't want. This most times, appears as cruise but there are certain people on the net this days lacking the ability to think for themselves and so, ingest all they see in that sense.

      We want someone that ticks our boxes but tend to forget that no one including our self is perfect. While i understand that there are outright red-flags seen in people that totally disqualifies them from being a partner prospect, there is also a pandemic of not trying to connect with a person, working and effortfully developing each other into being the best versions of themselves. Meaning nobody wants to put in work, everybody wants that self-made human to be theirs.

      I believe that nobody is actually perfect and that the more you get to know a person, the more views you get of their imperfections, so why not just pick the plant you think you can nurture and try to grow it. If you see the actual throwbacks of the couples you admire, or a quick reveal of times they fought and argued, their lows, you would definitely see things in a better light.

      Although, there are actual situations of couples meeting each other at the peak of their best selves, and i am quite certain they didn't get to that point by frolicking away their time, imagining their future partner. A lot of self development must have gone down to achieve such feat.

So, are you going to choose nurturing with someone or that already nurtured partner?